Elopements vs. Big Weddings: The Case for Intimate Celebrations

If you’re currently deep in wedding planning and feeling overwhelmed by guest lists, budgets, or expectations, this post is for you. Let’s talk about elopements vs. big weddings—and why choosing a more intimate path might be exactly what your heart needs. Modern elopements aren’t about running away in secret (though that can still be romantic, too). Today, an elopement is all about intentional, deeply personal wedding experiences. Whether it’s just the two of you saying your vows on a mountain at sunrise, or a cozy gathering of your closest people in a forest clearing; intimate weddings are often times where its at.

Getting to witness how freeing this style of celebration can be is one of my favorite parts of my job. Without the pressure of a big audience or rigid timeline, couples are able to slow down, breathe deeply, and truly experience the whole day. You get to spend real time and savor the moment with each other—and with the few people who matter most. Not to mention that elopements give you the freedom to choose stunning, non-traditional spots—mountains, beaches, forests, or even your own backyard. With fewer guests, you can invest more in the things that matter most to you—like your dress, location, photography, or a romantic honeymoon.

Of course, there’s something undeniably exciting about big weddings. If you’ve always dreamed of a full dance floor, a dramatic grand entrance, and a big celebration surrounded by everyone you love, that’s a beautiful thing! Traditional weddings offer lots of opportunities for unforgettable moments—first dances, tearful speeches, and that feeling of being wrapped in love by a huge community. And who doesn’t love the late night photos of guests wearing their tie like a headband? As your wedding photographer, I always aim to tell your story with heart, no matter the size of your celebration. You and your spouse are what is most important to me on that day, and I will assist with any moving parts that are within my ability.

There is no “right” way to get married. There’s only the way that feels like you. Whether that’s a big wedding filled with joyful chaos or a quiet elopement focused on your connection, what matters most is that you stay true to your hearts. If the idea of ditching tradition and crafting something meaningful from the ground up speaks to you, I’m here for it. And if you’re dreaming of an intimate wedding experience that’s beautifully documented, I’d be honored to help you make it happen.